Fact Feel Want

Here's a little technique for assertive behaviour, courtesy of the free NHS course "Effective Communication" (though they accept no responsibility for the example that follows)

1) First state a fact (not opinion), e.g. "you're hot" (ok maybe that's an opinion, but saying 8 out of 10 men would cut off their right arm to sit next to you on a bus, would require dubious research)
2) Then state what you feel: "i feel giddy looking at you"
3) Then what you want: "how about a quickie in the closet?" (yes i know, points 2 & 3 are mis-matched, but you get the idea)

Of course you can also use this technique to help resolve day-to-day disputes, example: (NHS will like this one)
1) State fact e.g. "I did all the washing up this week, even though half the dirty dishes are yours"
2) Say what you feel e.g. "I feel used"  (own this feeling... use "I", not "you make me feel..")
3) Then what you want e.g. "Can you do the washing up tomorrow?"

Feel free to share your examples.